Negative thoughts create self fulfilling prophecies. That was a Facebook post I posted recently but what does it really mean? It means that what you think about negatively, is actually creating it in the future. So you definitely need to stop negative thoughts from becoming a part of your thinking.
Why you need to stop thinking so negatively
So, by the very fact that you’re thinking about what you don’t want, you’re actually asking your mind to create it. Whether it be an argument, whether it be a problem at work, whether it be a problem at home, whatever it is.
What you think about is going to manifest it or a version of it. So it could be something as simple as thinking I’ve got a train journey and I really don’t want to feel anxious on that train. And then what you do is you start imagining how you would feel, and the events that could happen.
How anxiety starts
Let’s imagine you’ve got that train journey weekend ahead. And what you’re thinking about is, every day, being anxious on that train. What you’re actually doing is rehearsing, to be anxious. And there’s a very high probability that when you get there that that will be the case, then you start thinking the trains the problem!
The train isn’t the problem. It’s the fact that without realising it, you’ve been rehearsing anxiety. You’ve been rehearsing having panic attacks or whatever it is that you do. So your negative thoughts then become that self fulfilling prophecy.
The solution to negative thoughts
So, we have to be very careful what we think about, because without realising it people are rehearsing their next problem. You must stop negative thoughts before they get a grip. And it seems so innocent, doesn’t it. Think about what you don’t want because you think surely, by thinking about what I don’t want, I’m going to prevent it, or at very least, I’ll be better prepared for it.
So what you need to do instead is think about what outcome, do I want on that train, on that job interview, in that personal thing that is going on in your life. What is the outcome that I do want, and actually start mentally rehearsing, that outcome instead.
Hope that makes sense why you must stop negative thoughts. If you want more personal assistance with this you can book in a chat with me below.
Do you have an addictive personality? Do all the things that you do, have to be in excess? Do you drink to excess, drugs to excess gamble to excess is everything that you do in your life, excessive? If so, you probably think you’ve got an addictive personality.
The truth about addictive personalities
The funny thing is whenever people ring me up and tell me that they’ve got an addictive personality, 95% of them are men. Why is that? Well, men often believe they’ve got addictive personalities that means they can’t control their urges.
The question is, do they really have an addictive personality, or do they have too much money? Do they have too much money in their pockets, because I’ll guarantee, whenever people tell me they’ve got an addictive personality they earn very good money.
Addictive personality – Too much money, too much free time?
And they squander the waste all the time. But what they say to themselves is “well it’s just me, it’s just my personality”. The Truth About addictive personality is that if you believe you genuinely do have one, you will be here if that were you, your actions will be governed by that belief that that’s who you are, and that’s what you’ll experience.
And if you continue to believe you’ve got an addictive personality, one that you can’t control what you do, guess what you’re going to do more of it. I honestly believe the real reason why people believe they’ve got issues is because of the belief itself.
The power of belief
The most powerful thing in the world that we have as human beings is the power of our own beliefs, and the belief that our personalities are something that’s stuck in our DNA.
If you really believe that, you will live your life like that. So instead, I want you to believe that you don’t have an addictive personality. It’s just that in the past you’ve made some very very bad choices, and you haven’t learned from them. So use that instead.
Because if you believe you’ve got an addictive personality, you’re always going to be making bad choices bad mistakes and you’re going to need to do bad things in life. But what you’ve really got to do is actually take responsibility for your behaviour for how you behave. Also the actions and choices that you make.
Change the thought pattern
And that is the very very first step of actually breaking that fault cycle. So use this information, and start to talk to yourself differently starting to tell yourself that you don’t have addictive personality at all.
In fact, all you’ve got is a past where you’ve made some bad choices. Instead tell yourself that you’ve got a strong personality, that you’ve got a lot of willpower that you’ve got a lot of common sense. Start to tell yourself that every day.
You will literally remove this, this false belief that you’ve got this personality type. If you really genuinely have an addictive personality well you’ll be addicted to everything. It’s funny how people have in the car that it tends to be the usual three things up they’re addicted to, alcohol, drugs, or gambling.
In reality, sometime we just need to grow up and take responsibility. So I hope that makes sense and maybe that resonates with you. I hope it does. If you want one to one help with this check out my 1-2-1 service HERE
Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. What I want to talk about today is obsessional thinking. Do you suffer from obsessional thinking? Let’s find out!
What is obsessional thinking?
What I want to talk about today is obsessional thinking. Do you suffer from obsessional thinking? So the last 18 months since the pandemic, I’ve seen a massive rise with people contacting me and working with me with obsessional thinking. And it is obviously part of the OCD family, but I’ll give you some examples of some things that people obsess about these days.
Health anxiety, obsessing that that they’ve got an illness, when they don’t have one, is one of the massive major things that I deal with every day.
It’s also very common to obsess over being too healthy. You can actually obsess over your fitness levels, obsess about the gym, obsess about how many times you work out, or don’t work out. There are so many different things to obsess about. Your food, what you should and shouldn’t eat. It never ever ends, and with all these obsessions. You can move from one obsession to the next.
OCD and obsessive thinking
So one obsession dies out and is replaced by another one. All OCD like behaviour is created by an underlying anxiety, at some level of something not quite right with your life.
Either. What’s going on your life, OR the way you run your mind.
So obsessional behaviour is definitely on the increase and it’s hardly surprising. After what we’ve all been through in the last 18 months. But there is a treatment for it, and I call it Thought Retraining. So this is what I teach all my clients when they join my online program, it’s all covered in that.
So basically obsessional thinking can be reversed. With the same process that you created it. We can reverse it, because you can actually get obsessional about changing this, and changing the processes of your brain. I find when people with OCD tendencies very easy to work with because they always do things diligently.
They never forget. So if you’re struggling at the moment with obsessional tendencies, no matter what it is, how you look, how much you weigh, whatever it is, understanding that at the bottom of it. In most most cases, there is anxiety there that’s underpinning all of that. So if you need some help with that get in touch.
They don’t want to wait for a week for appointments that they just want to come straight onto and start to learn the thought retraining process so I hope that makes sense. And if that’s you, it can be changed, you can reverse it. Keep believing, and I’ll see you again soon for another video.
Do you have anxiety without even realising it? Can you relate to some of the following symptoms? A lot of people don’t even realise they’ve actually got anxiety because people with anxiety tend to have very similar ways of thinking.
So let’s run through some Anxiety traits and see if these resonate with you.
Paranoia. Do you feel like people are talking about you. Do you think that people are saying things behind your back. Do you feel as if people are plotting against you, saying nasty things all the time, if that was what you do, that is an anxiety trait
People pleasing. Always wanting to people, always wanting people to say thank you, always wanting to help people all the time, and you feel as if like, if you don’t do it for them, something will go wrong in their lives. So you feel as if almost as if you are responsible for their lives. If that sounds like you. That’s an anxiety trait.
Perfectionism. Are you a perfectionist? Do you want everything to be perfect? And even when it’s done you’re very self critical about your work or what you’ve done. And you always think critically about any work you’ve done. Picking fault with it thinking it could have been better. If so, That is it an anxiety trait.
There are so many anxiety traits that people don’t even realise, are part of the anxiety family. Especially when you start adding these things up. Lets say for instance you’re doing three of those things, you will be an anxious person. When we look at, anxiety, and the mechanics of it, generally, most people with anxiety, are doing the same things in their heads.
They’re creating the same results. I call it swimming with a shoal, the shoal of fishes. All people with anxiety do roughly the same sort of thinking patterns in the heads. And when we look at people who are happy, they’re not using those patterns.
How happy people think
They don’t think like that, they’re not paranoid and don’t feel as if they’re responsible for the world. They’re not overly critical, and all those other things. So what I do my anxiety programme is I’m basically teaching people how to change shoals.
So instead of following the shoal of anxiety people and doing what anxious people do and how they think, I teach people how happy people think. Because there’s a different way that happy people think, compared to how anxious people think.
So if that sounds interesting, and you want to know more about it, you can book consultation with me. And as always, subscribe to this YouTube channel, and I’ll be getting new videos out every single week. So have a great day, and hope to hear from you soon. Bye for now.
Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. And what I’m going to talk about today is health anxiety, what it is and how you can change it. The first thing to understand about health anxiety is, it is an obsession.
Health anxiety and OCD
Health Anxiety is from the OCD family and how it starts as when that person has some sort of illness or discomfort, some sort of sensation in the body, rather than just passing it off as that sensation or not feeling very well. That person then starts to dig. They start digging online, they go into Google, and before they know it. This then start believing that they’ve got cancer, or some other serious illness like that.
And what then happens this is the spiral into decline. When that person then starts to worry to the point where the symptoms get even worse, then they end up going to see the doctor. The doctor gives them a thorough examination, and generally comes back and says “Look, you’ve got nothing wrong with you”, and that that person goes home feeling a little bit of relief from that.
But only temporarily, because they then start going online and start looking at medical misdiagnosis. They find stories whereby people who have been told by doctors that they’re fit and healthy and they turned out they haven’t been fine. They they start thinking “Maybe the doctor got it wrong”.
And they’ll start digging even further on Google. That becomes an absolute obsession where the person actually makes themselves ill and exacerbates any symptom. While the very fact that that they are focusing so much on that symptom. They can almost create new symptoms and new sensations, because what they’re really doing is asking their mind to almost produce, how a more serious symptom might feel.
So that person then spirals into even worse, anxiety levels, because then start research even further.
Typical character traits of people with Health Anxiety
Disbelieving their own doctor and going for private checks can follow. Nothing ever satisfies the obsession. It doesn’t matter who tells them, I’ve had clients who have literally spent 1000s of pounds going to see different doctors. Doctors from Harley Street, you name it all over the all over the world, getting checked out and whenever a doctor says to them and says, you’re perfectly fine. It only ever seems to have like a very short lived effect on that person.
And then the very next day, they start going back into Google, again, going on forums, almost convincing themselves that there really is something wrong with them. At this point it becomes really difficult for anyone that’s with these people living with them partners. It just gets a little bit out of control. So no amount of evidence will ever help the anxiety sufferer, if they believe they’ve got some sort of health ailment.
No amount of professionals telling them that they’re all fine, and I’ve actually seen people who’ve genuinely made themselves ill with health anxiety. I’ve actually read symptoms appear, probably due to the fact that they’ve got that much adrenaline and cortisol flying on their bodies so they end up getting real genuine stomach problems acid problems and palpitations of the heart.
So that’s pretty much what health anxiety is, it is an obsession. It is an obsessional behaviour, used to be called hypochondria years ago. But the question you might be wondering is, is there anything I can do about it? Well, absolutely, yes there is. The first thing you need to do is understand that you’ve got this obsession that it is not an illness, what you’ve got, you’ve actually got an obsession an OCD style obsession.
Now the only way we can break this is by first of all, stop going on Google. Stop googling symptoms, and you will start changing your focus away from your health, because the more you start to focus on it, the more you’re asking your body to create sensations and refocus yourself on something else. Now, it can be quite stubborn to remove.
So my probably best advice for you would be to actually get some professional help from someone like myself who can, who specialises in removing health anxiety, and yes it does, it takes some effort to do it it’s it’s quite a stupid little pocket to get rid of health anxiety, but you can do it. And one of the reasons people cheap space because they use a technique called Thought retraining.
And what thought retraining does, it is a technique of help stop and block the thoughts that cause the health anxiety in the first place. And if you practice the health anxiety protocol which is what I teach to my clients, you can generally get rid of health anxiety pretty quick. But like everything in life, it does have to be worked out, it needs to be practised.
So it isn’t something that has to be with you all the time. It is something that you can reverse, reverse the obsession with the right help, so if you’d like to know any more about that, you can either get in touch with me, or you can actually help with health anxiety or my new Rapid anxiety elimination programme, and that will give you the full step by step guide of how to remove health anxiety. So I hope that helps and I hope that gives you a little bit of hope that it doesn’t have to be a permanent thing.