Stop negative thoughts

Negative thoughts create self fulfilling prophecies. That was a Facebook post I posted recently but what does it really mean? It means that what you think about negatively, is actually creating it in the future. So you definitely need to stop negative thoughts from becoming a part of your thinking.

Why you need to stop thinking so negatively

So, by the very fact that you’re thinking about what you don’t want, you’re actually asking your mind to create it. Whether it be an argument, whether it be a problem at work, whether it be a problem at home, whatever it is.

What you think about is going to manifest it or a version of it. So it could be something as simple as thinking  I’ve got a train journey and I really don’t want to feel anxious on that train. And then what you do is you start imagining how you would feel, and the events that could happen.

How anxiety starts

Let’s imagine you’ve got that train journey weekend ahead. And what you’re thinking about is, every day, being anxious on that train. What you’re actually doing is rehearsing, to be anxious. And there’s a very high probability that when you get there that that will be the case, then you start thinking the trains the problem!

The train isn’t the problem. It’s the fact that without realising it, you’ve been rehearsing anxiety. You’ve been rehearsing having panic attacks or whatever it is that you do. So your negative thoughts then become that self fulfilling prophecy.

The solution to negative thoughts

So, we have to be very careful what we think about, because without realising it people are rehearsing their next problem. You must stop negative thoughts before they get a grip. And it seems so innocent, doesn’t it. Think about what you don’t want because you think surely, by thinking about what I don’t want, I’m going to prevent it, or at very least, I’ll be better prepared for it.

So what you need to do instead is think about what outcome, do I want on that train, on that job interview, in that personal thing that is going on in your life. What is the outcome that I do want, and actually start mentally rehearsing, that outcome instead.

Hope that makes sense why you must stop negative thoughts. If you want more personal assistance with this you can book in a chat with me below.

Do you have anxiety and don’t realise it

Do you have anxiety without even realising it? Can you relate to some of the following symptoms? A lot of people don’t even realise they’ve actually got anxiety because people with anxiety tend to have very similar ways of thinking.

So let’s run through some Anxiety traits and see if these resonate with you.

Paranoia. Do you feel like people are talking about you. Do you think that people are saying things behind your back. Do you feel as if people are plotting against you, saying nasty things all the time, if that was what you do, that is an anxiety trait

People pleasing. Always wanting to people, always wanting people to say thank you, always wanting to help people all the time, and you feel as if like, if you don’t do it for them, something will go wrong in their lives. So you feel as if almost as if you are responsible for their lives. If that sounds like you. That’s an anxiety trait.

Perfectionism. Are you a perfectionist? Do you want everything to be perfect? And even when it’s done you’re very self critical about your work or what you’ve done. And you always think critically about any work you’ve done. Picking fault with it thinking it could have been better. If so, That is it an anxiety trait.

There are so many anxiety traits that people don’t even realise, are part of the anxiety family. Especially when you start adding these things up. Lets say for instance you’re doing three of those things, you will be an anxious person. When we look at, anxiety, and the mechanics of it, generally, most people with anxiety, are doing the same things in their heads.

They’re creating the same results. I call it swimming with a shoal, the shoal of fishes. All people with anxiety do roughly the same sort of thinking patterns in the heads. And when we look at people who are happy, they’re not using those patterns.

How happy people think

They don’t think like that, they’re not paranoid and don’t feel as if they’re responsible for the world. They’re not overly critical, and all those other things. So what I do my anxiety programme is I’m basically teaching people how to change shoals.

So instead of following the shoal of anxiety people and doing what anxious people do and how they think, I teach people how happy people think. Because there’s a different way that happy people think, compared to how anxious people think. 

So if that sounds interesting, and you want to know more about it, you can book consultation with me. And as always, subscribe to this YouTube channel, and I’ll be getting new videos out every single week. So have a great day, and hope to hear from you soon. Bye for now.

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Why is anxiety worse at night

Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. One of the questions I get asked all the time is, why does anxiety happen at certain times of the day? Why does that tend to happen more daytime or night time? Now, to answer that properly, you’ve really got to understand, what I call the power of suggestion.

How anxiety is created

In fact, what you tell yourself is lining up the future anxiety. So quite often people say to me every morning when I wake up my anxiety is terrible. It’s bad first thing, and then as it goes on through the day. It then starts to diminish and by later on it’s all gone.
 
What they don’t realise when they say things like that is that they’re actually lining it up in their mind and almost ordering it through the very language that they speak. Now I know that might sound quite outrageous to someone who’s not in the psychological field like I am. This is absolutely true though, your own language patterns are actually planning and lining up your future anxiety.
 
So when people say to me “why is my anxiety terrible at night, why is it terrible in the morning”? They tell me, hour by hour about how it changes throughout the day. They don’t realise that they’re actually planning, and using that hypnotic suggestion on themselves.
 

How anxiety becomes programmed

And people often say to me “my anxiety is terrible at night, that’s why I’ve got to put the telly on to go to sleep, because I know my anxiety is going to be worse”. “I can’t have any quiet because if I’m quiet, it’s going to get worse”. What they’re actually doing is telling their brain to make them anxious.

And if you do it every day and you tell yourself that over and over and over again you’re going to make that a habit.  You’re going to make that into a reality. But like all things in life that you practice, If you practice practice having anxiety at night or in the morning when you wake up, you’re going to have it.
 

The solution to anxiety at night

So what we really need to do instead is actually start to talk to yourself, so that you’re getting the results that you want instead. Which is, you want to have a nice relaxed night. You want to feel good in the morning. Well, in order for that to happen. That’s what you’ve got to start telling yourself, will happen.
 
Now obviously, that’s not going to happen right away. If you’ve for years been telling yourself that every night you go to bed, you’ve got terrible anxiety but it is a start. That’s what you must start to do, you must start to decondition or recondition your mind. How you talk to you is everything, and it is determining so many results in your life right now.
 
I hear people on on Facebook and they’ll say stuff like, oh my God every day when I go to bed. I know I won’t be able to go to sleep and to them, it’s quite an innocent statement. To their mind though it is a command. So be very careful what you tell yourself about you, because the things you tell yourself create your future.
 
So I hope that helps and I hope that gives you that answer that you’re looking forward that if you need any more help. You can either hit me up on here, send me a message.
 
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Mental health tips

Hi so I was recently interviewed by former bad boy and strongman Brian Cockerill asking for mental health tips. Brian turned his life around by coming off drugs and finding peace within the Christian faith. Check out the video below to get some great tips and insights into mental health issues. 

How to treat anxiety

So here today we have an interview with myself and Brian Cockerill. Therefore where we will discuss many aspects of mental health. I will provide some great tips and how we can start to change the way we think and feel about mental health. There are lots of topics included in this video in addition to a nice laid back approach.
 
Topics include motivation and also General Anxiety Disorder. Health anxiety, depression, OCD, and many other things in this light hearted interview. It’s nice to interact with the audience and answer questions from a live audience. 
 

Tips included in the video

Lack of motivation is a big issue for people today and I discuss how lack of goal setting is often the cause. You can’t be motivated if you have nothing to be motivated about!
 
Health anxiety is another issue that creates a lot of mental anguish these days. In the interview I discuss the symptoms and what we can do about it.
 
We will discuss my childhood growing up, bullying, an online trawling. Brian gives his own personal accounts to his life hence adding to this powerful interview. Brian discusses some of the struggles that he’s had to encounter in his own life, including drug addiction and also depression.
 
So sit back, pop your headphones on and listen to this interview. As I truly believe you will learn quite a lot from it. Consequently you will get a good insight to my therapy hence a good all round experience.
 
Best wishes, Steve Norton.
 

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Anxiety treatment results

So today I interviewed for my former client to check on her anxiety treatment results. So, I love to do these sort of things. And if anybody knows me, they know that I love to do everything unscripted. I like the natural flow of conversation in unscripted interviews. 

Former client interview

I love just doing things off the cuff, and I never rehearse things. I  just like to get out and do it and especially for my first Instagram Live video for the day. That’s exactly what I wanted to do, and I’m posting here today because I’m actually going to post an interview one of my former clients. A lovely lady called Becky Williams, and she is one of the most inspirational clients I’ve ever had the pleasure to work with.

What happened after she joined my program?

Becci’s had quite an amazing journey since she first came to see me and joined my program just over a year ago.  We’ve been in touch a few times since. It’s an important part of my work to check on my former client anxiety treatment results.

Long term benefit is the what we are looking for. It’s easy to feel good for a few weeks but what happens when therapy stops?

I’ve been watching her little journey online, and how she’s developed as a person and what she’s done in her own personal life. Quite honestly see is very very inspirational to me, and I’m dying to hear a lot more about how she’s got where she is today. Watch the video to find out what she’s planning to do for the future

Check out my new online Rapid Anxiety Elimination Program Here

Steve Norton Anxiety Specialist Book your FREE strategy call with me here: https://calendly.com/anxietyspecialist/30
Check out my success stories: https://www.anxietybreakthrough.co.uk/successstories/