How to get rid of trauma

So i guess you’re wondering how to get rid of trauma. What I want to talk to you about today is trauma. Trauma is that whenever we have any traumatic experience, generally what happens is, our mind remembers a snapshot of that event. It then reminds of the feeling whenever anything similar occurs.

How does trauma start?

So that whenever you think about the traumatic event, you always get almost like this little window of this is what happened. And the reason why your mind does that is to try to protect you.

When it doesn’t show you though is the events before the traumatic event happened or afterwards when you actually survived it, and got on with life. So whenever you are struggling with something like PTSD or trauma, whenever you think about those things, your mind is constantly giving you those snapshots, and they are the ones that have the most emotional charge connected to them.

So that whenever you think about them, you’re always getting almost like a charge of electricity. It’s where your body is literally giving you an electrical style sensation. So the problem with that is that it’s, it seems to be almost like a permanent loop.

The memory of trauma creates the emotions

So if you think about it, you feel it, you think about it, you feel it. The more that you think about it the more you feel it, and it can actually get into a habit, a habit of thinking and feeling that for most of the day, which is why trauma affects so many people these days.

So the traditional method is to have counselling, or CBT therapy where counselling what you would do is every week you would talk to someone about that traumatic event.  You then go through it and in some cases, relive it with the idea that you would resolve it somehow, by re experiencing that and talking about it.

Unfortunately, in my experience that is not the case at all. Many of my clients who come to see me to see how to get rid of trauma have actually been traumatised and made even worse, through going through such a procedure like that. What tends to happen is though, through analysis and going through with different therapies and remembering it all. You end up starting to bring new memories to the forefront memories that your mind even put to the back.

So now you’ve got even more negative memories that are coming to the forefront of your mind. So, there is a much more modern way that we can deal with trauma, and negative memories. The modern approach is that we’re able to now remove the feeling from negative memories.

Now, it happens one or two ways. One is that when you come to think about the old memory, you simply won’t be able to, you just, your brain will just not be able to remember what happened, or you will be able to think about it, but you actually won’t be able to bring back that old feeling. And the more you try to bring it back, the more impossible it becomes.

So, let me ask you a question. Which one, which method sounds the best reliving old memories? Feeling how you felt, week after week, or actually just removing that feeling? So you can actually now remember how it was rather than how it felt.

Because the moment you start to associate feelings and with memories, your ability to logically think things through becomes very very difficult. So that’s what we do with modern trauma therapy techniques.

How to get rid of trauma

Today, we are, we don’t have to relive them, we can remove feelings, so that you’re able to move on with your life. Get over your life, put it behind you, and just get on with things. So if that makes sense and if that sounds good. You can always get a little chat with me booked in. Also check out the services page for more info.

Can health anxiety make you ill

One of the questions I get asked all the time is, can you make yourself ill by thinking about illnesses? Can you literally think yourself ill? The answer is absolutely yes. Let’s look at one of the most common things that people come and see me about these days, which is health anxiety.

Health anxiety traits

Quite often, a person will think and think so much about illnesses that they will actually make themselves ill. They will actually develop symptoms through the very fact that creating them through their own imagination.

And when you think about negative thoughts. What you’re going to get your body to do is send through some very nasty chemicals that will start to affect you.

Those chemicals, cortisol and adrenaline. If they’re getting pumped in every day for hours and hours every day for absolutely no reason, they will start to manifest themselves as an illness.

What physical symptoms can you get?

You certainly can get bodily illnesses such as acid reflux, problems with your bowels, problems with the way your heart feels, tightness of the chest, you name it. And if you don’t stop that process, you will make yourself ill.

It’s almost like the self fulfilling prophecy where you think you’re going to be ill, and you think you could be, and you’re actually making yourself ill. So you’re out your mind is a very powerful thing. So, what you think about is asking your mind to create.

You’ve got to be careful what you think about. If you’re constantly thinking about your chest all the time, asking yourself “How does my chest feel, does it feel tight”? You’re actually asking your mind, to give you a tight chest. Every time that you think about dying or being ill, you get more and more adrenaline sent into the body that’s gonna make you feel ill.

So the short answer is yes you can make yourself ill, through thinking about it. So, what you do instead. Well, it is a fairly complex treatment to try to reverse on your own but it can be, quite easily reversed with the right guidance.

I see a lot of people with health anxiety, probably about 50% of the clients at the moment with health anxiety. Some can develop mysterious lumps that seem to develop some of them can’t swallow.

Some of them get feelings in the body and they’re convinced it’s cancer or a heart attack or something else. Some get tingling in hands and feet, and, and all of it it’s just because they’re focusing on it. They’re actually thinking that you’ve got it and they’re asking their mind to create some sort of a sensation.

It is something that you need to get a handle on, because you can make yourself ill through that physically through that process. So if you need any help, get in touch below and we’ll have a little chat. Alternatively go straight to the services page to read more on how my anxiety program works.

Addictive personality

Do you have an addictive personality? Do all the things that you do, have to be in excess? Do you drink to excess, drugs to excess gamble to excess is everything that you do in your life, excessive? If so, you probably think you’ve got an addictive personality.

The truth about addictive personalities

The funny thing is whenever people ring me up and tell me that they’ve got an addictive personality, 95% of them are men. Why is that? Well, men often believe they’ve got addictive personalities that means they can’t control their urges.

The question is, do they really have an addictive personality, or do they have too much money? Do they have too much money in their pockets, because I’ll guarantee, whenever people tell me they’ve got an addictive personality they earn very good money.

Addictive personality – Too much money, too much free time?

And they squander the waste all the time. But what they say to themselves is “well it’s just me, it’s just my personality”. The Truth About addictive personality is that if you believe you genuinely do have one, you will be here if that were you, your actions will be governed by that belief that that’s who you are, and that’s what you’ll experience.

And if you continue to believe you’ve got an addictive personality, one that you can’t control what you do, guess what you’re going to do more of it. I honestly believe the real reason why people believe they’ve got issues is because of the belief itself. 

The power of belief

The most powerful thing in the world that we have as human beings is the power of our own beliefs, and the belief that our personalities are something that’s stuck in our DNA. 

If you really believe that, you will live your life like that. So instead, I want you to believe that you don’t have an addictive personality. It’s just that in the past you’ve made some very very bad choices, and you haven’t learned from them. So use that instead.

Because if you believe you’ve got an addictive personality, you’re always going to be making bad choices bad mistakes and you’re going to need to do bad things in life. But what you’ve really got to do is actually take responsibility for your behaviour for how you behave. Also the actions and choices that you make.

Change the thought pattern

And that is the very very first step of actually breaking that fault cycle. So use this information, and start to talk to yourself differently starting to tell yourself that you don’t have addictive personality at all.

In fact, all you’ve got is a past where you’ve made some bad choices. Instead tell yourself that you’ve got a strong personality, that you’ve got a lot of willpower that you’ve got a lot of common sense. Start to tell yourself that every day.

You will literally remove this, this false belief that you’ve got this personality type. If you really genuinely have an addictive personality well you’ll be addicted to everything. It’s funny how people have in the car that it tends to be the usual three things up they’re addicted to, alcohol, drugs, or gambling.

Summary

In reality, sometime we just need to grow up and take responsibility. So I hope that makes sense and maybe that resonates with you. I hope it does. If you want one to one help with this check out my 1-2-1 service HERE

Cocaine addiction

Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here, I’m getting a lot more calls these days regarding cocaine addiction. What a lot of people don’t realise is when they’re taking cocaine is that the average cocaine, especially on Teesside area contains 5% cocaine.

What is inside cocaine?

So you got to ask yourself, what is the other 95%. Let’s face it if you’re putting your faith in a drug dealer! And what’s the chance that they’ll be putting something, fairly intelligent in there?
 
All they care about is money. All they care about is making more money out of you, they don’t care about what they’re putting in the wrap. You’re just an idiot to them, who’s spending all that money on cocaine.
 
And now, especially now the pubs are open people are probably doing more and more. But I guess before that we’re doing in the homes and stuff and it seems quite an innocent thing people don’t often think of themselves as having a problem with cocaine because I think  I only do it on the weekend.
 
I only do on the weekend so I don’t really have a problem! But what you got to really think to yourself, is this what is contained inside of it. Think of it from the drug dealers point of view, what would you put in that?
 

What could the real ingredients of cocaine be?

What would you do if you were the dealer? You just put in anything that would try to mimic it anything that would give you that sort of like tingly feeling. Some of the ingredients are rat poison, under the sink cleaning products. You’ve also got to think about that, that’s gone into your bloodstream, it’s also gone in your brain. So all that stuff is actually going around your brain.
 
So, I wonder what the long term consequences of that will be? Best of all, the consequences to your family, your friends, because it’s never just a simple thing of doing a little bit of a bit of coke on the weekend. It ends up on on a Wednesday night, then it ends up on a Thursday or Friday night, and before you know it, you’re doing it every day.
 
And you’ve really got to think about the consequences of that, because I get people phone me, and they’ve lost everything, they’ve lost the jobs, their wives, their children, everything they’ve just lost it due to cocaine addiction.
 

It’s just a bit of fun isn’t it?

And it all started out just having a little bit of coke on a weekend, and nothing, nothing too serious. And yes its mostly the boys, yeah I’m not saying that women don’t do it. Women clearly do it. But by far the amount of people that do it its men, men with a lot of money in the pockets too. Offshore workers, people have got a lot of time on their hands are the usual culprits.
 
People just never had money that they have today and yet on the weekend I think it’s part of that party thing and do a little bit of coke here and there but it will only lead to your downfall. These people are pretend to be your friends who offer you a little bit of coke, they’re not your friends, those people in your life actually your enemies.
 
They’re going to take away everything that you love in your life, that you are risking every single thing here, your relationship, your children, your job, your health, your mental health and for what? Sticking a bit of white powder up your nose!
 

Know your enemies

So anyone who tries to persuade you and tell you it’s okay just have a little bit of coke on the weekend, is not your friend. That’s actually your enemy, and you need to get the hell away from those people, because it will get out of hand, I will guarantee it and I get people who phone me but it’s gone beyond my help.
 
I can’t help them anymore because they’ve gone too far into it, they’ve lost everything they’ve had. They had nice cars, nice houses and everything and now they’ve got nothing. but just this living just nothing anymore now just mentally they’re, they’re absolutely terrible step. So think about that the next time someone offers you some cork, that little bit of innocent cork, they’ll get a sniff here and there, it isn’t innocent, it will lead to your downfall.
 

The solution

So don’t even start it, you don’t need it, if they need it, that’s fine, that’s their business. But that’s nothing to do with you, and you really need to look at the company that you keep, because if the company that you keep are all doing that on the weekend, you need to stay well well away from them because they will drag you down with them.
 
They don’t care. They want you to be done with them, but be smart, think about this. Think about how many people that you know, even celebrities who have been hooked on cocaine and stuff, and you know and that was probably the real stuff. God knows what the stuff is that you’ve tried. You can use only imagine what it must be.
 
So, think smart put your family self first and yourself first, and, and just say no to that cocaine addiction because it is the way to ruin. So I hope that makes sense, and have a fantastic day. I’ll see you again soon for another video. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. Bye for now.
 
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Mental health tips

Hi so I was recently interviewed by former bad boy and strongman Brian Cockerill asking for mental health tips. Brian turned his life around by coming off drugs and finding peace within the Christian faith. Check out the video below to get some great tips and insights into mental health issues. 

How to treat anxiety

So here today we have an interview with myself and Brian Cockerill. Therefore where we will discuss many aspects of mental health. I will provide some great tips and how we can start to change the way we think and feel about mental health. There are lots of topics included in this video in addition to a nice laid back approach.
 
Topics include motivation and also General Anxiety Disorder. Health anxiety, depression, OCD, and many other things in this light hearted interview. It’s nice to interact with the audience and answer questions from a live audience. 
 

Tips included in the video

Lack of motivation is a big issue for people today and I discuss how lack of goal setting is often the cause. You can’t be motivated if you have nothing to be motivated about!
 
Health anxiety is another issue that creates a lot of mental anguish these days. In the interview I discuss the symptoms and what we can do about it.
 
We will discuss my childhood growing up, bullying, an online trawling. Brian gives his own personal accounts to his life hence adding to this powerful interview. Brian discusses some of the struggles that he’s had to encounter in his own life, including drug addiction and also depression.
 
So sit back, pop your headphones on and listen to this interview. As I truly believe you will learn quite a lot from it. Consequently you will get a good insight to my therapy hence a good all round experience.
 
Best wishes, Steve Norton.
 

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