Stop negative thoughts

Negative thoughts create self fulfilling prophecies. That was a Facebook post I posted recently but what does it really mean? It means that what you think about negatively, is actually creating it in the future. So you definitely need to stop negative thoughts from becoming a part of your thinking.

Why you need to stop thinking so negatively

So, by the very fact that you’re thinking about what you don’t want, you’re actually asking your mind to create it. Whether it be an argument, whether it be a problem at work, whether it be a problem at home, whatever it is.

What you think about is going to manifest it or a version of it. So it could be something as simple as thinking  I’ve got a train journey and I really don’t want to feel anxious on that train. And then what you do is you start imagining how you would feel, and the events that could happen.

How anxiety starts

Let’s imagine you’ve got that train journey weekend ahead. And what you’re thinking about is, every day, being anxious on that train. What you’re actually doing is rehearsing, to be anxious. And there’s a very high probability that when you get there that that will be the case, then you start thinking the trains the problem!

The train isn’t the problem. It’s the fact that without realising it, you’ve been rehearsing anxiety. You’ve been rehearsing having panic attacks or whatever it is that you do. So your negative thoughts then become that self fulfilling prophecy.

The solution to negative thoughts

So, we have to be very careful what we think about, because without realising it people are rehearsing their next problem. You must stop negative thoughts before they get a grip. And it seems so innocent, doesn’t it. Think about what you don’t want because you think surely, by thinking about what I don’t want, I’m going to prevent it, or at very least, I’ll be better prepared for it.

So what you need to do instead is think about what outcome, do I want on that train, on that job interview, in that personal thing that is going on in your life. What is the outcome that I do want, and actually start mentally rehearsing, that outcome instead.

Hope that makes sense why you must stop negative thoughts. If you want more personal assistance with this you can book in a chat with me below.

Addictive personality

Do you have an addictive personality? Do all the things that you do, have to be in excess? Do you drink to excess, drugs to excess gamble to excess is everything that you do in your life, excessive? If so, you probably think you’ve got an addictive personality.

The truth about addictive personalities

The funny thing is whenever people ring me up and tell me that they’ve got an addictive personality, 95% of them are men. Why is that? Well, men often believe they’ve got addictive personalities that means they can’t control their urges.

The question is, do they really have an addictive personality, or do they have too much money? Do they have too much money in their pockets, because I’ll guarantee, whenever people tell me they’ve got an addictive personality they earn very good money.

Addictive personality – Too much money, too much free time?

And they squander the waste all the time. But what they say to themselves is “well it’s just me, it’s just my personality”. The Truth About addictive personality is that if you believe you genuinely do have one, you will be here if that were you, your actions will be governed by that belief that that’s who you are, and that’s what you’ll experience.

And if you continue to believe you’ve got an addictive personality, one that you can’t control what you do, guess what you’re going to do more of it. I honestly believe the real reason why people believe they’ve got issues is because of the belief itself. 

The power of belief

The most powerful thing in the world that we have as human beings is the power of our own beliefs, and the belief that our personalities are something that’s stuck in our DNA. 

If you really believe that, you will live your life like that. So instead, I want you to believe that you don’t have an addictive personality. It’s just that in the past you’ve made some very very bad choices, and you haven’t learned from them. So use that instead.

Because if you believe you’ve got an addictive personality, you’re always going to be making bad choices bad mistakes and you’re going to need to do bad things in life. But what you’ve really got to do is actually take responsibility for your behaviour for how you behave. Also the actions and choices that you make.

Change the thought pattern

And that is the very very first step of actually breaking that fault cycle. So use this information, and start to talk to yourself differently starting to tell yourself that you don’t have addictive personality at all.

In fact, all you’ve got is a past where you’ve made some bad choices. Instead tell yourself that you’ve got a strong personality, that you’ve got a lot of willpower that you’ve got a lot of common sense. Start to tell yourself that every day.

You will literally remove this, this false belief that you’ve got this personality type. If you really genuinely have an addictive personality well you’ll be addicted to everything. It’s funny how people have in the car that it tends to be the usual three things up they’re addicted to, alcohol, drugs, or gambling.

Summary

In reality, sometime we just need to grow up and take responsibility. So I hope that makes sense and maybe that resonates with you. I hope it does. If you want one to one help with this check out my 1-2-1 service HERE

Why is anxiety worse at night

Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. One of the questions I get asked all the time is, why does anxiety happen at certain times of the day? Why does that tend to happen more daytime or night time? Now, to answer that properly, you’ve really got to understand, what I call the power of suggestion.

How anxiety is created

In fact, what you tell yourself is lining up the future anxiety. So quite often people say to me every morning when I wake up my anxiety is terrible. It’s bad first thing, and then as it goes on through the day. It then starts to diminish and by later on it’s all gone.
 
What they don’t realise when they say things like that is that they’re actually lining it up in their mind and almost ordering it through the very language that they speak. Now I know that might sound quite outrageous to someone who’s not in the psychological field like I am. This is absolutely true though, your own language patterns are actually planning and lining up your future anxiety.
 
So when people say to me “why is my anxiety terrible at night, why is it terrible in the morning”? They tell me, hour by hour about how it changes throughout the day. They don’t realise that they’re actually planning, and using that hypnotic suggestion on themselves.
 

How anxiety becomes programmed

And people often say to me “my anxiety is terrible at night, that’s why I’ve got to put the telly on to go to sleep, because I know my anxiety is going to be worse”. “I can’t have any quiet because if I’m quiet, it’s going to get worse”. What they’re actually doing is telling their brain to make them anxious.

And if you do it every day and you tell yourself that over and over and over again you’re going to make that a habit.  You’re going to make that into a reality. But like all things in life that you practice, If you practice practice having anxiety at night or in the morning when you wake up, you’re going to have it.
 

The solution to anxiety at night

So what we really need to do instead is actually start to talk to yourself, so that you’re getting the results that you want instead. Which is, you want to have a nice relaxed night. You want to feel good in the morning. Well, in order for that to happen. That’s what you’ve got to start telling yourself, will happen.
 
Now obviously, that’s not going to happen right away. If you’ve for years been telling yourself that every night you go to bed, you’ve got terrible anxiety but it is a start. That’s what you must start to do, you must start to decondition or recondition your mind. How you talk to you is everything, and it is determining so many results in your life right now.
 
I hear people on on Facebook and they’ll say stuff like, oh my God every day when I go to bed. I know I won’t be able to go to sleep and to them, it’s quite an innocent statement. To their mind though it is a command. So be very careful what you tell yourself about you, because the things you tell yourself create your future.
 
So I hope that helps and I hope that gives you that answer that you’re looking forward that if you need any more help. You can either hit me up on here, send me a message.
 
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When will anxiety go away?

Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. And what I want to talk to you about today is something I get asked all the time, which is, when will my anxiety symptoms go away? Well unfortunately, unless you actually do something about anxiety, it isn’t just going to go away magically by itself.

Anxiety facts

The way to think about anxiety is a little bit like a smoking. Anxiety is a habit like smoking. It is the repetition of thinking that creates the habit that we call it anxiety, and the symptom anxiety is that horrible feeling inside of you.

So like smoking, the more you smoke, the more you reinforce it, the more you make that habit more of a part of your daily life. So anxiety is very much like that. In order to change that habit. You have to know how to change it you have to have a plan B. 

You’ve also asked yourself, how will it just go away by itself? Does that even sound realistic? So in order to get rid of anxiety, you have to do some psychological reprogramming of your mind, to get rid of that habit that is just there at the moment. So there’s obviously lots of different ways you can do that.

There’s lots of different self help methods you can use for that. You can contact someone like myself, for a personal one to one. With that you can actually try my Rapid Anxiety Elimination Program, and that is really good for helping to remove anxiety.  Please be aware though you simply will not just wake up one morning and your anxiety will be gone all by itself.

And the reason why is because every day without realising it, you’re practising and rehearsing your next anxiety problem in your mind. You do this with your own very thoughts you are rehearsing your next upcoming difficulty. Now if you do that every day, a few hours a day,  you are literally reinforcing that every day.

The brutal truth

So the idea that one day you’ll wake up and that will stop. It isn’t really realistic. What you’ve got to do is get some proper psychological help, and they will show you how to remove anxiety. It is quite a complex thing. So if you’re looking for help, definitely go and see someone who is really well qualified.

Someone has got really good reviews. So that’s been doing it for quite a long time, it is not something that you want to go see someone who’s just a lay person, someone who’s just done a little bit of training or bought an online course. It needs to be professionally, looked at. So I hope that helps.

I hope that you understand that anxiety itself will not just go away one morning when you wake up isn’t as much as wishful thinking is very nice. You’ve got to be able to change that programming your mind.

Best wishes

Steve

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Does counselling work for Anxiety

Hi Steve not an anxiety specialist here, I want to talk to you about something I hear almost every single week. Does counselling work for Anxiety? Often people tell me that they’ve tried counselling in the past, and they’re going back and try it again.

What is counselling good for?

Now, the thing with counselling is very very good for us to think bereavement, when we’ve lost somebody and you just need to talk to someone that’s really really good counselling is amazing for that. But let’s say for instance you’ve got anxiety.

You can’t just talk away anxiety you can’t just have a conversation about it and then that anxiety just going to disappear by itself. Does counselling work for Anxiety?  Counselling to try to get rid of anxiety is a bit like taking a toothpick to try to knock down a house. It isn’t going to work.

And when you think about the logic behind what most people do is they have counselling and then 5 to 10 years later they go back and have some more of it. So if it didn’t work before. It’s not going to work again. And it was Albert Einstein actually said that the definition of madness is trying to get a different result by doing the same thing.

What we need to do instead help with anxiety!

So we understand what counselling really is it is it isn’t for anxiety. Anxiety is very much a mind programme, it is like, almost like a computer virus that gets stuck in your mind. So simply talking about it won’t remove it. You’ve got to go into the source,

You’ve got to go into the, the hard drive if you like of the brain, and dig it out. It’s almost like or like imagine if you had a problem with your boiler, would you expect the boiler man to come around every week just have a chat about that, would you expect that to actually fix the problem. No you wouldn’t.

Anxiety is exactly the same, anxiety needs specific tools and techniques to remove it. So, if you’re one of these people who is anxious, and for years you’ve tried things in the past that haven’t worked.It simply makes no sense to go back to do more things that didn’t work. Does that even make sense?

No, of course it doesn’t. In order to change, anxiety, you’ve got to do something completely differently, you’ve got to, you’ve got to go see someone who deals with a day in day out. Who, that’s their bread and butter.

To summerise

So if you’ve got anxiety, and you want to get some help with it, jump on the phone, I can honestly say to people. I never persuade anyone to come to my programme. In fact it’s Tommy’s his way around.

If I don’t feel you’re right for the programme with a dog feel like you’re not ready for it as simply would never take on as a client. I only take on people that genuinely think I can help. So I hope that clears things up about counselling, and I hope to hear from you soon if got any questions, feel free to ask me, send me a message, and let’s jump on the phone.

Let’s get rid of anxiety for good.

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