Obsessional thinking

Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. What I want to talk about today is obsessional thinking. Do you suffer from obsessional thinking? Let’s find out!

What is obsessional thinking?

What I want to talk about today is obsessional thinking. Do you suffer from obsessional thinking? So the last 18 months since the pandemic, I’ve seen a massive rise with people contacting me and working with me with obsessional thinking. And it is obviously part of the OCD family, but I’ll give you some examples of some things that people obsess about these days.

Health anxiety, obsessing that that they’ve got an illness, when they don’t have one, is one of the massive major things that I deal with every day.

It’s also very common to obsess over being too healthy. You can actually obsess over your fitness levels, obsess about the gym, obsess about how many times you work out, or don’t work out. There are so many different things to obsess about. Your food, what you should and shouldn’t eat. It never ever ends, and with all these obsessions. You can move from one obsession to the next.

OCD and obsessive thinking

So one obsession dies out and is replaced by another one. All OCD like behaviour is created by an underlying anxiety, at some level of something not quite right with your life.

Either. What’s going on your life, OR the way you run your mind. 

So obsessional behaviour is definitely on the increase and it’s hardly surprising. After what we’ve all been through in the last 18 months. But there is a treatment for it, and I call it Thought Retraining. So this is what I teach all my clients when they join my online program, it’s all covered in that.

So basically obsessional thinking can be reversed. With the same process that you created it. We can reverse it, because you can actually get obsessional about changing this, and changing the processes of your brain. I find when people with OCD tendencies very easy to work with because they always do things diligently.

They never forget. So if you’re struggling at the moment with obsessional tendencies, no matter what it is, how you look, how much you weigh, whatever it is, understanding that at the bottom of it. In most most cases, there is anxiety there that’s underpinning all of that. So if you need some help with that get in touch.

Certainly have a look at my online rapid anxiety elimination program, which really is good for people who have got little time for appointments, and they want to get on with it straight away.

They don’t want to wait for a week for appointments that they just want to come straight onto and start to learn the thought retraining process so I hope that makes sense. And if that’s you, it can be changed, you can reverse it. Keep believing, and I’ll see you again soon for another video.

Do you have anxiety and don’t realise it

Do you have anxiety without even realising it? Can you relate to some of the following symptoms? A lot of people don’t even realise they’ve actually got anxiety because people with anxiety tend to have very similar ways of thinking.

So let’s run through some Anxiety traits and see if these resonate with you.

Paranoia. Do you feel like people are talking about you. Do you think that people are saying things behind your back. Do you feel as if people are plotting against you, saying nasty things all the time, if that was what you do, that is an anxiety trait

People pleasing. Always wanting to people, always wanting people to say thank you, always wanting to help people all the time, and you feel as if like, if you don’t do it for them, something will go wrong in their lives. So you feel as if almost as if you are responsible for their lives. If that sounds like you. That’s an anxiety trait.

Perfectionism. Are you a perfectionist? Do you want everything to be perfect? And even when it’s done you’re very self critical about your work or what you’ve done. And you always think critically about any work you’ve done. Picking fault with it thinking it could have been better. If so, That is it an anxiety trait.

There are so many anxiety traits that people don’t even realise, are part of the anxiety family. Especially when you start adding these things up. Lets say for instance you’re doing three of those things, you will be an anxious person. When we look at, anxiety, and the mechanics of it, generally, most people with anxiety, are doing the same things in their heads.

They’re creating the same results. I call it swimming with a shoal, the shoal of fishes. All people with anxiety do roughly the same sort of thinking patterns in the heads. And when we look at people who are happy, they’re not using those patterns.

How happy people think

They don’t think like that, they’re not paranoid and don’t feel as if they’re responsible for the world. They’re not overly critical, and all those other things. So what I do my anxiety programme is I’m basically teaching people how to change shoals.

So instead of following the shoal of anxiety people and doing what anxious people do and how they think, I teach people how happy people think. Because there’s a different way that happy people think, compared to how anxious people think. 

So if that sounds interesting, and you want to know more about it, you can book consultation with me. And as always, subscribe to this YouTube channel, and I’ll be getting new videos out every single week. So have a great day, and hope to hear from you soon. Bye for now.

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Why is anxiety worse at night

Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. One of the questions I get asked all the time is, why does anxiety happen at certain times of the day? Why does that tend to happen more daytime or night time? Now, to answer that properly, you’ve really got to understand, what I call the power of suggestion.

How anxiety is created

In fact, what you tell yourself is lining up the future anxiety. So quite often people say to me every morning when I wake up my anxiety is terrible. It’s bad first thing, and then as it goes on through the day. It then starts to diminish and by later on it’s all gone.
 
What they don’t realise when they say things like that is that they’re actually lining it up in their mind and almost ordering it through the very language that they speak. Now I know that might sound quite outrageous to someone who’s not in the psychological field like I am. This is absolutely true though, your own language patterns are actually planning and lining up your future anxiety.
 
So when people say to me “why is my anxiety terrible at night, why is it terrible in the morning”? They tell me, hour by hour about how it changes throughout the day. They don’t realise that they’re actually planning, and using that hypnotic suggestion on themselves.
 

How anxiety becomes programmed

And people often say to me “my anxiety is terrible at night, that’s why I’ve got to put the telly on to go to sleep, because I know my anxiety is going to be worse”. “I can’t have any quiet because if I’m quiet, it’s going to get worse”. What they’re actually doing is telling their brain to make them anxious.

And if you do it every day and you tell yourself that over and over and over again you’re going to make that a habit.  You’re going to make that into a reality. But like all things in life that you practice, If you practice practice having anxiety at night or in the morning when you wake up, you’re going to have it.
 

The solution to anxiety at night

So what we really need to do instead is actually start to talk to yourself, so that you’re getting the results that you want instead. Which is, you want to have a nice relaxed night. You want to feel good in the morning. Well, in order for that to happen. That’s what you’ve got to start telling yourself, will happen.
 
Now obviously, that’s not going to happen right away. If you’ve for years been telling yourself that every night you go to bed, you’ve got terrible anxiety but it is a start. That’s what you must start to do, you must start to decondition or recondition your mind. How you talk to you is everything, and it is determining so many results in your life right now.
 
I hear people on on Facebook and they’ll say stuff like, oh my God every day when I go to bed. I know I won’t be able to go to sleep and to them, it’s quite an innocent statement. To their mind though it is a command. So be very careful what you tell yourself about you, because the things you tell yourself create your future.
 
So I hope that helps and I hope that gives you that answer that you’re looking forward that if you need any more help. You can either hit me up on here, send me a message.
 
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When will anxiety go away?

Steve Norton anxiety specialist here. And what I want to talk to you about today is something I get asked all the time, which is, when will my anxiety symptoms go away? Well unfortunately, unless you actually do something about anxiety, it isn’t just going to go away magically by itself.

Anxiety facts

The way to think about anxiety is a little bit like a smoking. Anxiety is a habit like smoking. It is the repetition of thinking that creates the habit that we call it anxiety, and the symptom anxiety is that horrible feeling inside of you.

So like smoking, the more you smoke, the more you reinforce it, the more you make that habit more of a part of your daily life. So anxiety is very much like that. In order to change that habit. You have to know how to change it you have to have a plan B. 

You’ve also asked yourself, how will it just go away by itself? Does that even sound realistic? So in order to get rid of anxiety, you have to do some psychological reprogramming of your mind, to get rid of that habit that is just there at the moment. So there’s obviously lots of different ways you can do that.

There’s lots of different self help methods you can use for that. You can contact someone like myself, for a personal one to one. With that you can actually try my Rapid Anxiety Elimination Program, and that is really good for helping to remove anxiety.  Please be aware though you simply will not just wake up one morning and your anxiety will be gone all by itself.

And the reason why is because every day without realising it, you’re practising and rehearsing your next anxiety problem in your mind. You do this with your own very thoughts you are rehearsing your next upcoming difficulty. Now if you do that every day, a few hours a day,  you are literally reinforcing that every day.

The brutal truth

So the idea that one day you’ll wake up and that will stop. It isn’t really realistic. What you’ve got to do is get some proper psychological help, and they will show you how to remove anxiety. It is quite a complex thing. So if you’re looking for help, definitely go and see someone who is really well qualified.

Someone has got really good reviews. So that’s been doing it for quite a long time, it is not something that you want to go see someone who’s just a lay person, someone who’s just done a little bit of training or bought an online course. It needs to be professionally, looked at. So I hope that helps.

I hope that you understand that anxiety itself will not just go away one morning when you wake up isn’t as much as wishful thinking is very nice. You’ve got to be able to change that programming your mind.

Best wishes

Steve

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Mental health awareness week

Hi Steve Norton anxiety specialist here, and guess what, it’s Mental Health Awareness Week again. God I hate this week, where everybody goes on Facebook talking about…. If you need a friend I’m there…. If you’ve got some mental health issues you’re okay, it’s okay not to be okay, and all that crap that you see on Facebook.

Why these campaigns aren’t effective 

What they should really be talking about is the biggest issue of it all. Which is why, why do so many people these days have mental health issues? That’s the real question I reckon about 80% of people actually walking around at any given moment got mental health issues, matters mean the Gordon math doesn’t mean they’re on the, on the brink of suicide or anything but they are actually operating on a level where they’re just not happy.
 
The question is why. Okay, it’s this case that the pandemic helped out with the upside the Freudian slip out of the equation. Let’s say that it didn’t happen this Corona stuff. People were still getting more and more anxious all the time. And the reason why is because this is simple, people on average do not know how to run their brands, so that they can make themselves happy.
 

Buying happiness

And you see all the time because people will go and try to do external things to try to make themselves happy they will go to the doctors for pills they will go to the beautician for Botox, they will do not see anything wrong with that but that’s what they do, they will get their lips fat, they will do all sorts of things they will try anything struggling to make themselves feel happy.
 
Now the problem with that is that whenever you try to use an external device or tool to try and make yourself happy, it is always a very short lived, outcome. The real reason why most people are not happy today despite the fact that we’ve got more money, more nicer cars nicer houses, they know better lifestyles than ever.
 

It’s all about the mind!

It’s because the way that they run their brain is not in line with what will make them happy, is the way that they’re think whether they have their perception set up on all different things. So it doesn’t matter about what you’ve got, or whatever like that, How much you how big your houses. If you’re not running your mind right, you’re never going to be happy.
 
So, mental health week. Well, the biggest problem that, that we have to do is that the mental health services provided by the NHS are crap. I’m just going to be blunt, the outcrop counselling is not good for anxiety, it’s not great for depression, it’s good for bereavement CBT, I also know people.
 
I will say well CBT CBT is effective, it has a very very low success rate, and is often traumatic for people going through it. So, what people really want is actually how do I go from where I am now to where I want to be. That’s what people really need to know because what most people don’t realise is the way that they’re running their brands daily is not the right way.
 

Poor results aren’t goof enough!

Yes, you get some good results, you got to work on that, whatever, which generally what happens is, on a personal level, how you think about yourself personally is not working for you. So when I do my anxiety programme is I teach you how to control your mind. I give you the missing information that you need to bridge the gap.
 
So, when we go to school we’re taught all sorts of things that we never need to know like algebra, but there isn’t a lesson called how to run your brain. Well that’s exactly what I teach on my programme. I teach you how to control your thoughts, how to think with logic. What foods make your brain work better and how to control your emotions and so many different things like that.
 
That’s just one of the first four sessions on the programme. So rather than going through and doing the same things over and over again in your mind getting the same results. Why not say look, I’m going to try something completely different. Because what you’re doing now simply is not working.
 
And the definition of madness is doing the same thing, that didn’t work, try and get different results. So I’ll leave you a little link to have a look at my programme. Check it out. 
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