Stop negative thoughts

Negative thoughts create self fulfilling prophecies. That was a Facebook post I posted recently but what does it really mean? It means that what you think about negatively, is actually creating it in the future. So you definitely need to stop negative thoughts from becoming a part of your thinking.

Why you need to stop thinking so negatively

So, by the very fact that you’re thinking about what you don’t want, you’re actually asking your mind to create it. Whether it be an argument, whether it be a problem at work, whether it be a problem at home, whatever it is.

What you think about is going to manifest it or a version of it. So it could be something as simple as thinking  I’ve got a train journey and I really don’t want to feel anxious on that train. And then what you do is you start imagining how you would feel, and the events that could happen.

How anxiety starts

Let’s imagine you’ve got that train journey weekend ahead. And what you’re thinking about is, every day, being anxious on that train. What you’re actually doing is rehearsing, to be anxious. And there’s a very high probability that when you get there that that will be the case, then you start thinking the trains the problem!

The train isn’t the problem. It’s the fact that without realising it, you’ve been rehearsing anxiety. You’ve been rehearsing having panic attacks or whatever it is that you do. So your negative thoughts then become that self fulfilling prophecy.

The solution to negative thoughts

So, we have to be very careful what we think about, because without realising it people are rehearsing their next problem. You must stop negative thoughts before they get a grip. And it seems so innocent, doesn’t it. Think about what you don’t want because you think surely, by thinking about what I don’t want, I’m going to prevent it, or at very least, I’ll be better prepared for it.

So what you need to do instead is think about what outcome, do I want on that train, on that job interview, in that personal thing that is going on in your life. What is the outcome that I do want, and actually start mentally rehearsing, that outcome instead.

Hope that makes sense why you must stop negative thoughts. If you want more personal assistance with this you can book in a chat with me below.

How to have more self confidence!

Lack of self confidence often occurs because you look at what you’re NOT good at rather than what you are good at. You need to turn that thought process around.

The key to more self confidence

Think about this. You do so many good things every week but you never congratulate yourself on those things. You just take them for granted. Instead you focus on what you could have done better and criticise yourself about it.

You focus on your weakest areas and make them the focal point of your life. When you do this you become stuck in the loop of self doubt.

Here’s the truth

Just because you did something before and weren’t that good at it doesn’t mean you can’t do that thing in the future. That’s down to lack of experience rather than not being able to do it.

Nobody is the finished article when we are younger. You’re not even the finished article now!

If you want more self confidence you need to pat yourself on the back for all the things you do well. Focus on your strengths and what you’re good at.

Accept a bit of self praise and that will help you build up the areas that need more work.

It’s all about what you focus on!

Best wishes



Attention anxiety professionals

As well as working full time as a therapist I also train therapists in my Thought Retraining approach. If you’re looking for a structured step by step approach to treat anxiety clients have a look at my new program.

My entire anxiety treatment strategy is now available. There are no quirky techniques just pure psychotherapy delivered in an easy to understand format. Any questions just ask. Here’s the link.

Best wishes

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So what’s your plan B?

Hypnotherapy MiddlesbroughSo if you’re not going to get professional help for anxiety what is your plan B?

1. Live the rest of your life anxious?
2. Take medication to try and relieve it?
3. Hope that a golden unicorn will turn up and magically take it away?

If anxiety is spoiling your life. If you worry constantly and mentally plan for the worst. If it’s ruining your enjoyment of life get in touch.

If you want to do something positive and natural to get rid of your anxiety I can help. Plan B is not going to work.

Warm regards


Your thoughts are creating your future

It’s true. Your mind is like a magnet. Your thoughts are creating your future. The future that you control. You have to be careful what you think about, because that is what you’re setting up. Good or bad the law of attraction doesn’t care. It’s bringing you what you continuously focus on. I suggest you focus on what you want!

Have a great day!